Sometimes poopie diapers are a good thing

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Last week was a hectic week, with a full schedule at work and Gladys being out of town for work.  I wanted to get some thoughts out quickly but I'm tired of writing, so here is an audio recap of what I learned about my relationship with The Kid from a few poopie diapers.

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